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kateerobl said: Hey, i talked to you a few months ago about my ex boyfriend and how he cheated on me and i found out after we broke up and how i couldn't cope. Well its be almost five months and i'm still dwelling on it Ive tried everything to move on. Ive had two boyfriends and they only lasted about a week each because my ex was still on my mind.. i really only want to be with him and i don't know why because he cheated on me. ya know? Help me again? /: I'm sorry.

Hey there. I remember. I know exactly how you feel. It happens, unfortunately there’s nothing I can tell you that’s gonna make it better. These things take time to get over. I don’t think you should be in any relationship right now. Spend some time to yourself and try to get used to being alone. It wouldn’t be fair for you OR whoever you’d be in a relationship with. NOW. I’ve personally been cheated on, it’s the worst feeling in the world and it is VERY hard to recover from. However, it is not impossible. My current boyfriend has cheated on me.. and we’re still together. I also have a best friend who her boyfriend cheated on as well and they’re working through it. It’s hard.. but you can’t change what’s already done. You can either call it quits and move on, or work on it. If you ex-boyfriend is willing to try to fix things and you find it in your heart to forgive him, try it. But if he has done nothing to prove himself to you or show any sort of remorse, move on. As harsh as it sounds, there’s no use caring for someone who doesn’t care about you. Surround yourself with friends. Keep your mind occupied with other things.  I hope you feel better soon.. Stay Strong <3

cheeers-to-the-teenage-years-de said: My bestfriend dated this guy for about 9 months and in the last like 3 he treated her like crap. alot of drama between them so they ended it, and he soon moved to another girl. But e keeps going back to my BFF and talking to her and flirting. And she does it back. I've told her that I can't stand the way he has treated her and how he does treat her sometimes but she never listens. She's even stopped telling ne what's going on between them, she hides it from me.. I need her back to herself again.

Sounds to me like your best friend needs a MAJOR wake up call. Don’t be too hard on her, we do stupid things when we are in love.. And sometimes, we don’t realize. You should tell her how you feel, have a serious talk. Let her know that this is making you uncomfortable because you don’t wanna see her get hurt, but that you’ll be supportive of her. We can advice people up to a certain point.. We can’t make them listen to us. Let her know clearly how you feel and let her do what she wants. If she wants to keep talking to him.. Let her. It is after all her life. Just warn her. And be supportive of whatever she does. Because if you go against her, she’s just gonna keep things from you. Be supportive of whatever she decides, talk to her.. Maybe there’s a reason she keeps going back to him. Communication is key! Good luck <3 You’re a great friend by the way :)

lifeincomplication said: hi. lately i've been moody, not sure why. i was almost throwing tantrum and i feel the need to cry and yet i couldn't at all. i try to get drunk but it didn't work and yesterday i forgot to eat till i was feeling nauseated. it wasn't something i plan of but it did make my mind away. i feel the need to scream, party really hard, dance till my feet hurts, anything to the extreme to vent my anger. still i do not know what i am angry about. :/

We all go through moments like this… Maybe there’s a void in your life that needs to be filled. Find something that keeps you happy, and occupies your mind. Scream, party, do whatever you need to let it out of your system. This phase will pass, nothing is permanent. Not even emotion! Hope you feel better sometime soon <3

prettylittleliaaaaars said: Hey, so. I like this guy for probably 10 months already, but I'm not expecting me to like me back. But you know. NVM. After a while, my bestfriend took his phone number from my cellphone and started texting him. Yesterday, she told me that she kinda like him. And, she texted him and called him and all nothing like what I can do. I'm thinking of letting him go and I don't know. I just don't know what to do anymore. :l

OH NO. That is super messed up from your friend.. Does she know you’ve liked him for so long? I had an ex-best friend who decided to go for the guy I was madly in love with after we had gone through a horrible break up.. IT was awful. SHE’S AWFUL. lol But anyways, It’s really up to you if you want to let him go. And if you want to have that type of friends around.. AND If you’ll be able to have them be a couple around you IF they end up getting together.. On another note, you should never feel like people don’t need to like you back. You shouldn’t have that mentally, you could have ANYONE like you back. With my ex, for example. I was in love with him for TWO YEARS till we finally started going out. You shouldn’t give up, it could happen!

enndless-loveeee said: ok so my best friends who became my boyfriend broke up with, he feels that i pushed him away and made him feel like he wasnt good enough. the thing is i was going through depression and still am and i admit that i did sometimes i was really insecure, and very emotional and cried alot on him but i never meant to make him feel like that. but even after we ended we will spent time together and stuff, but i cried again and said all the feelings i was having, now he doesnt want anything to do withme

Oh no, that’s horrible. Not everyone knows how to handle other people’s depression.. That’s why sometimes, as tough as it is to hear, we must face our depression alone. No one really likes to hear somebody whine and complain 24/7. If you are never happy around them, you are going to make them feel like THEY aren’t making you happy. We all go through problems, but we must never make our loved ones feel like they are ONE MORE problem in our lives. You will push them away, even when you’re at your worst, try to find a reason to smile, and let them know and feel like even when your world sucks, you’re happy you have them. He probably felt like you didn’t appreciate him. I’m not saying keep everything to yourself, but don’t show people you’re miserable 24/7, they’re not gonna wanna be around you! I suggest to try to talk to him, apologize for making him feel like that and make an effort to be happy around him!

kateerobl said: Uhm, i found out the other day that my ex boyfriend that i dated for a year and a half cheated on me for a long time during our relationship. I always was suspisous of this girl and now i know why cause he was cheating with her. I saw homecoming pic of them on facebook and then my friend told me she saw they went into a relationship on facebook so now they are offical. i just don't know how to cope with all of this. help me ):

Oh noo, I’m so sorry. I know how that feels, it’s one of the worst heart sinking situations ever. Something similar happened to me and it has been a nightmare. My ex-boyfriend is now dating the girl who used to be my best friend, and the other one I found out he cheated on me for the longest time with his ex-girlfriend, he was two-timing us. I found out later in the relationship, and it was really hard. I can’t really tell you the perfect way to cope with this. Because to be honest, I’m still trying to find a way to get over it. The best I can tell you, is try to block him out of your life. I suggest you surround yourself with people who care about you. Find something that brings you happiness and focus on that! There’s nothing you can do.. but don’t worry, Karma will come around for him. I’m SURE! Good luck babe <3 Keep your head high, you deserve better.

livelifelikelana said: First of all I <3 your blog... Okay so here's the thing, I went to a quince on Saturday this guy asked me to dance and I really liked him. He was the cutest, sweetest thing EVER! hehehe...he asked if I had a facebook but didn't ask what was it. I found him recently on facebook but i dont know if i should add him. Maybe it'll seem to eager. HELP!

Thank you so much :)

And okay, well maybe he forgot to ask and got distracted. I say, you wait a couple more days and you casually add him, add a little note on the friend request kinda like “ohh look who facebook suggested as a friend! :P ” or something like that. Once he accepts, let him talk to you. If he is interested, he will message you or something! If a couple of weeks pass and he hasn’t said anything, maybe you could catch him online and say hey :) start a convo and see where it goes!

Anonymous said: okay so i like this guy in one of my classes and he is really shy. but we have so much in common and his eyes got me hypnotized by how amazing they are. i am the one that has to keep the conversation with him and the one that has to text first. we hung out over the weekend and planning to this coming weekend and i dont know if i should make a move or what? im so confused but i really like him and i dont know if he likes me.

Ohh! That sounds cute :) I say you try a few simple moves, see if he responds to them! If he’s really shy, he won’t do the first move. Hint to him you’re interested in him and see what happens! 

Anonymous said: Hey, I need your opinion on something. My boyfriend and I broke up a couple weeks ago. We were so happy and then he got drunk (which is really unlike him) and he did something he regrets. We broke up mutually because we didn't feel it was a good idea to stay together. But I still love him and think about him everyday, and we talk a little every now and then. I don't even know if he wants to get back together, or if it's a good idea for me try to get back together with him. What do you think?

Hello, hmm I am living something like this. My boyfriend has really screwed me over doing really stupid things that have hurt me terribly. I have done my best to get through them, because I really love him more than anyone but sometimes that’s not enough.. BUT If what he did, you KNOW he regrets, and you still miss him and stuff, and you think you’d be able to put whatever he did behind you, I suggest you talk to him and try to work things out. I know it’s not easy but hey, love never is. It always takes sacrifices. Try talking to him first, and then take it form there <3